Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Relinquish the need to control

Lighting is everything to a photographer. While outside, in nature, one can revel in the current light, but it is not fixed and changes from one moment to the next. One cannot make it come back. Nor can one change what once was. Put into this perspective, it is ludicrous to mourn for the light prior, as there is the light of now and the light of future moments.

Each moment is real. Each experience in that moment is real. Everything within a moment occurs due to a culmination of events that lead to such moment. Hence, blame and judgment become inappropriate.

I just came across a channel (posted prior) and it is about relinquishing control on other people’s experience. What they choose to experience is their business. How they choose to react is their business. It is so. I particularly like this part:

“Try taking a back seat. You are not the driver of every car. Let's face it, beloveds, you are a passenger in life. Sometimes you may be the driver of the bus. Most of the time, you just go along for the ride. This is the ride of your life that you are on. You do not take the food off someone else's plate. You do not hand-feed anyone. Everyone has to be left to his or her own devices. Hands off your self-elected directorship. Hands off interference. That's what control is - interference. It is not for you to interfere in anyone's life. You may think you are taking responsibility, yet your responsibility is to let go. Beloveds, you cannot have your finger in every pie.”

1 comment:

Laura said...

This is a great post. It's so true and resonates with me on so many levels.